It Takes a Village - Creating Your Own Support System

“Call it a clan, call it a network, call it a tribe, call it a family, whatever you call it, whoever you are, you need one.” - Jane Howard

Self-reliance and independence is valued in the modern western world, but life’s challenges and highlights raise awareness of the need for others, of community, love and support. You are wired for connection and you can create your own tribe beyond your biological family. It’s not easy but a worthwhile, life-long process and the more you learn about yourself, the clearer this process will become.

Just remember:

Reach out: It can seem daunting to ask for help when needed. However, it is the very act of revealing yourself and your vulnerabilities that build connection, as Brene Brown says. Taking the risk to seek help fosters stronger, deeper and meaningful relationships. And as they say, if at first you don’t succeed, try, try again. There’s no pressure to “get it right” – the main aim is to increase connection and support in line with your needs and values.

Diversify your tribe: It’s easier to connect with those who are similar to you, and yet leaning into the wisdom of those outside of your comfort zone can be hugely beneficial. Consider getting to know people that are different to you, whether it be age group, background, life stage, life experiences, personality – it will challenge and expand your world view and enrich your life.

Your tribe is ever-changing: It will continue to change and grow, so do not expect it to remain the same. Some people will come and go, others will stay. You will lean on each other for different things at different points in time. If it is mutual and connecting and beneficial to your wellbeing, rest assured your tribe is alive and well.
 
Life throws many challenges but you don’t have to do it alone. Contact Sydney Psychology Group to your book appointment with a psychologist.

Written By: Angela Seo (Registered Psychologist)