What is Internalised Homophobia, and How Do You Deal With It?
Internalised homophobia is the experience of learning untrue societal prejudices and believing there is something ‘wrong’ with lesbian, gay, bisexual, trans, intersex, and questioning people (LGBTIQ) or that LGBTIQ individuals are somehow ‘less than’ heterosexual or cisgendered people. It happens when societal prejudices are taken in and turned on oneself by LGBTIQ people. This can lead to anxiety, depression, shame, self-hatred, low self-esteem, unrelenting high standards and perfectionism and higher incidences of mental health issues for the LGBTIQ community.
There can be a tendency to minimise childhood exposure to familial and societal discrimination and heterosexism. A reason for this may be because of the progress and advancements in queer rights, it’s not uncommon for LGBTIQ people to downplay early encounters of homophobia because ‘it was so much worse’ in the past. However, research has consistently shown negative childhood experiences impact wellbeing and mental health, and this is the same for childhood exposure to homophobia for LGBTIQ people. Unpacking instances and events contributing to internalised homophobia involves self-observation and re-education. This can improve wellbeing and mental health by promoting self-compassion, empathy, and acceptance.
Connection, self-care, and accessing support also serve to combat internalised homophobia. This may look like making LGBTIQ friends, and connecting with and supportive friends, and family. Giving oneself permission to set boundaries for less than supportive connections. Joining LGBTIQ friendly sporting, artistic or community group/s. If you are religious, find a church that has a LGBTIQ supportive reputation. Join LGBTIQ political groups and raise political consciousness. These activities can foster positive self-esteem.
Prioritise self-care with physical activity, adequate sleep, nutrition, hydration, mindfulness, paced breathing, meditation. Notice and monitor thoughts for critical judgements and practice self-compassion and kindness.
Support is available. NSW Health works in partnership with LGBTIQ+ people and organisations to address health needs, service access, and quality healthcare experiences. Below is a link to LGBTIQ+ services and community organisations.
Link: https://www.health.nsw.gov.au/lgbtiq-health/Pages/community-organisations.aspx
Written By: Kara Binstadt (Registered Psychologist)